The best thing that you can do to help us celebrate our wedding is to come along to the ceremony and reception, there is no need for anything else. However, we realise that people may want to mark the occasion with some sort of gift. After 12 years together we have all the toasters that we could ever need, so we don’t have a gift list.
Our goals are more around saving for the future. If you would really like to offer us some token, then help in this area would be more welcome than say crockery. However, we would not want anyone to feel obligated, as we say above your presence on the day is more than enough.